Couples Counselling

The focus of Couples Counselling is to learn skills to work on relationship problems, including:

• effective ways of communication

• listening skills
• anger management and
• acceptance of differences.

The counselling session provides a safe place to communicate openly and honestly, taking responsibility for our own feelings and behaviour, rather than blaming our partner.

It is recommended that issues brought up in the session remain private between the couple.

Counselling may involve talking about family history and important life events.

The couples agree to set goals, and to use the session to work towards these goals together and between sessions.

This is a space to help repair damage to the relationship, to promote respectful dialogue and reasonable boundaries. 

This work is about shifting from individual coping to relational coping, learning to "lead with your need," and understanding that a true "cycle is the bad guy," not either partner.

The goal is to foster connection, safety, and a shared journey rather than individual blame

"When we know that our partner cares about us and what we are going through, it becomes easier to show that caring in return. Focus on that part of you that cares for the other and give them the chance to care for you."

Dr. Don Cole